Relationships Information

Do Men Just Want Mommy?


Accomplished women are losers in romance claims NY Times columnist Maureen Dowd in her column titled "Men Just Want Mommy." She says powerful men want to marry women who are caretakers like secretaries, assistants, nannies, flight attendants, etc. Are powerful women really at a disadvantage in the marriage market?

A University of Michigan study found that men prefer to marry women in subordinate jobs than womem who are supervisors. Another study by British researchers suggests that successful men would rather have traditional wives, more like their mothers. They also reported that the higher a woman's IQ, the less chance she has to marry.

Dowd wonders does this mean "the more women achieve, the less desirable they are?" Despite the somewhat alarming conclusions we might draw from these trends, the answer is a resounding NO!

Accomplished women can be winners in romance, but they have to set their sights on a different kind of man. The worst partner a powerful, ambitious woman can choose is a man who is just as powerful and driven as she is. High-powered men are smart to marry women who will support them, not compete with them.

Successful women today need to discover that men who are willing to play a more supporting role make perfect partners for them. It's tough for most men to accept a woman who is more successful than they are, but not all men feel that way. More men than you think would be happy to be the head cheerleader for a powerful woman.

The thing that keeps powerful women miserable in relationships is our own outdated beliefs. We've all been conditioned to want a husband who's rich and successful. However, as Gloria Steinem said, "Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry."

If we continue to think that we should have an equally high-powered man for a partner, we are setting ourselves up for failure. Put together two strong personalities who both like being in charge and you have a recipe for relationship ruin.

It took 30 years and 3 divorces before I discovered the truth about this for myself. Now I am happily married at last to a man who supports me and is proud of my accomplishments. He is happy to let me be the leader at home as well as at work. He does all the housework, too! So what if he earns less.

The only difficult part for me was accepting the fact that he likes me to be in control. And that he is no less of a man because of it. With that acceptance I have settled comfortably into the best and longest relationship of my life.

As more women out-earn their men the woman led marriage will become more common. That's why my husband and I are coming out of the closet about our relationship. Powerful women need a different kind of partner and a different kind of relationship to be happy. Rid yourself of those old stereotyped beliefs and learn how to pick the right kind of man. Accomplished women can be winners in work AND in love.

Barbara Wright Abernathy Author of Venus On Top: Women Who Are Born to Lead and the Men Who Love Them. Read FREE chapters and get your FREE report-3 Biggest Mistakes People Make While Dating at http://www.VenusOnTop.com


MORE RESOURCES:

Javno.hr

Museum of failed love offers balm for heartbreak
Reuters - 6 hours ago
The "Museum of Broken Relationships," which opened in Singapore on Wednesday, is a traveling display of items related to failed relationships donated by ...
FAILED LOVE MUSEUM Javno.hr
all 15 news articles


Tivo CEO says stepping up marketing partnerships
Reuters - 4 hours ago
O) plans to establish more marketing relationships with entertainment producers and retailers such as Best Buy Co Inc (BBY.N) in the current quarter and ...


Build Booming Business Relationships While On Vacation
Entrepreneur - 1 hour ago
Just as the word indicates, an autoresponder provides you with the opportunity to automatically build relationships and add value for your current customers ...


Building Relationships for Career Success in a Downturn Market Is ...
MSNBC - Jan 6, 2009
The key is to build these relationships with intimacy, transparency, generosity, and accountability. -- Identifying the people who can help you achieve ...


The Truth About Women, Money and Relationships
TIME - 16 hours ago
07, 2009 Why are so many women reluctant to talk openly about the role money plays in their lives and relationships? Hilary Black, a veteran magazine editor ...


Therapy notes: What does the credit crunch mean for relationships?
Times Online, UK - 2 hours ago
What does the credit crunch mean for relationships? A client, 38-year-old Jennifer, sees her boyfriend, 37-year-old Alex, in a new light since he lost his ...


BoldLoft's Cupid Takes Aim with Valentine's Day Gifts for Long ...
PR Newswire (press release), NY - 4 hours ago
If you're a pair that is parted ... found itself on opposite ends of a long and winding road, BoldLoft's long distance relationships gift ideas are an oasis ...


Telegraph.co.uk

SEC Inspector General Investigating Relationships Between ...
RTT News, NY - Jan 5, 2009
(RTTNews) - Allegations of inappropriate relationships between officials in the US Securities and Exchange Commission and Bernard Madoff Investment ...
Video: Congress Sounds Off Against SEC in Madoff Affair AssociatedPress
Congress panel probes Madoff amid reform calls Reuters
Madoff scandal, SEC role under scrutiny The Associated Press
Compliance Week (subscription) - Wall Street Journal Blogs
all 3,157 news articles


The Five Values for Successful Leadership
Motley Fool - 4 hours ago
Fourth, I believe it's crucial to build long-term, connected relationships. Many people build a network of superficial relationships. ...


Renewing relationships from a long-closed school
Contra Costa Times, CA - 1 hour ago
By Jennifer K. Rumple It was 1979 when more than 3000 students found out their beloved Del Valle High School would be closing because of low enrollment ...

Relationships - Google News

home | site map
© 2006