Weight Loss Information

Fat Lady in a Thin Body: WLS Patients Feel Like Imposters


Every weight loss surgery patient I've met said they at sometime during the weight loss experience felt like a fraud. A fraud is someone who pretends to be what they are not, an imposter. Given this definition, of course we feel like a fraud! Almost overnight we become the exact opposite of what we have been for many years. We are in fact a fat person masquerading in a thin body. Of course we feel like a fraud!

Weight loss following gastric bypass is so fast and consistent; there is no time to pause and become familiar with ourselves as our size diminishes and our health improves. So, while the body adjusts to its new healthy weight, our mind is slow to catch up. It still sees a fat person and this smaller body is alien and unknown. It is an imposter. A disguise. A fraud.

Be assured, this phase of fraud is normal and consistent among people experiencing rapid massive weight loss, it is part of the transformation. Be comforted knowing feelings of fraud will pass. As we become familiar with our down-sized dimensions the haunts from our morbidly obese days will pass. If a bariatric patient after several years of successful weight maintenance rapidly regained the weight they would feel as much a fraud in their new super-sized body as they did in their newly trimmed body. Feelings of fraud are certain to result when a change is as rapid and effective as gastric bypass weight loss.

For many patients, a different feeling of fraud is manifest when others start to notice and comment about the weight loss. In addition to managing our own feelings of change, we must manage feedback from others, much of which is unsolicited. Patients who have kept their surgery private feel fraudulent when they answer "I'm losing weight by eating less, controlling my sugar and fat intake and exercising" all of which is true. Patients who speak openly about their weight loss surgery may be told surgery was easy way out of obesity. They may hear about surgeries gone bad, get the warnings about regaining the weight, and be treated to a host of other myths. This feedback can cause us to feel fraudulent.

One weight loss patient said it best: "what I find both interesting and sad about bariatric patients: we are ashamed when we are fat, and we are ashamed when we do something about it." It is not fraudulent to be medically treated for a disease that is killing you. The weight loss surgery patient who accepts this as fact successfully overcomes feeling like a fraud. That patient celebrates the miracle of modern medicine and a second chance at living.

I used to tell my husband, "I'm nothing but a fat lady masquerading in small clothes." He didn't like me to talk that way about myself and asked, "if your best friend succeeded at losing weight - by whatever means medically available to her - would you talk to her the way you are talking to yourself? If your best friend were treated for a life-threatening disease with the best medical science has to offer would you say she was a fraud for undergoing that treatment to save her life?" He made an excellent point.

I no longer feel like a fraud, but I miss the wonder and awe that was associated with the newness of rapid and massive weight loss. During that time I was shocked to see my own reflection and awed by the little clothes that fit me. I studied in wonder every body part, the way it moved and felt and looked. I counted my ribs and rolled my fingers over my hipbones - I'd never felt that before discovering the miracle of the human skeleton. Nowadays it's all commonplace: this is who I am. It is no longer a surprising shock. I no longer feel like a fraud.

Kaye Bailey is a weight loss surgery success story having maintained her health and goal weight for 5+ years. An award winning journalist, she is the author and webmaster of http://www.LivingAfterWLS.com and http://www.livingafterwls.blogspot.com - Fresh & insightful content is added daily, check in often.


MORE RESOURCES:

Canada.com

Weight loss a phone call away, study finds
Reuters - 5 hours ago
"We actually found significant weight loss with phone counseling which hasn't been seen in other research," said Marieke Van Wier, a researcher at VU ...
Weight Loss Interventions by Phone or E-Mail Seen Effective MedPage Today
all 9 news articles


eFluxMedia

Orexigen drug shows 9.3 pct weight loss, shrs fall
Reuters - Jan 8, 2009
The US Food and Drug Administration has said obesity drugs need to demonstrate weight loss at least 5 percentage points above that seen with a dummy pill. ...
Orexigen Falls After Weight-Loss Pill Fails to Meet FDA Goal Bloomberg
Orexigen Says Weight Loss Drug Contrave Meets Goals in Trial eFluxMedia
Orexigen claims weight-loss pill is effective The Money Times
San Diego Union Tribune - TheStreet.com
all 59 news articles


eFluxMedia

US expanding list of illegal weight-loss drugs
Dallas Morning News, TX - Jan 8, 2009
More than 70 weight loss pills sold in the US as dietary supplements contain drugs that aren't disclosed on the labels and can harm consumers, ...
FDA Expands Warning on Weight Loss Pills Natural Products Marketplace
Weight loss pill warning WSLS.com
FDA sends out more diet pill alerts; criminal charges possible USA Today
Newsinferno.com - WSET
all 22 news articles


Reality TV Magazine

National weight loss challenge to help local food bank
Muncie Star Press, IN - 17 hours ago
Viewers that night learned about the show's collaboration with General Mills and national food banks to sponsor a weight loss and fundraising effort to ...
Weight loss program benefits Winchester News Gazette
Be Valley’s biggest loser Youngstown Vindicator
SOUTHEAST MISSOURI FOOD BANK, FEEDING AMERICA, GENERAL MILLS AND ... Southeast Missourian
Trading Markets (press release) - Muncie Star Press
all 16 news articles


Telegraph.co.uk

Steve Jobs' weight loss may be linked to his earlier cancer ...
San Jose Mercury News,  USA - Jan 5, 2009
But they said pancreatic surgery patients sometimes do suffer such weight loss and have been been successfully treated with oral supplements. ...
Video: Steve Jobs Weight Loss Due to Hormone Imbalance AssociatedPress
Apple's Steve Jobs blames 'hormone imbalance' for weight loss Computerworld
Jobs: Hormone imbalance causing weight loss CNNMoney.com
Bloomberg - Taipei Times
all 2,830 news articles


Madison Magazine: Weight-loss champs
Anderson Herald Bulletin, IN - 31 minutes ago
By Scott L. Miley, Herald Bulletin Special Projects Editor Cummings, 43, participated in an autumn YMCA Weight-Loss Challenge sponsored by the local club, ...


Better Business Bureau warns about fraudulent weight-loss endorsements
Anderson Independent Mail, SC - 22 hours ago
The Better Business Bureau is warning customers of online ads relying on celebrity endorsements to sell acai berry-related weight loss products. ...
BBB warns of acai berry weight-loss scam WalletPop
Call 4 Action: Marketing Of 'Weight Loss' Berry Drawing Fire MSNBC
Better Business Bureau issues a warning about acai berry Fort Worth Star Telegram
all 86 news articles


New weight-loss program at Dogma Athletica in Edwards
Vail Daily News, CO - 8 hours ago
The comprehensive program focuses on nutrition, lifestyle and health and addresses weight loss, blood sugar balance and its relationship to mood and hormone ...


New Weight Loss Scam Operating In The Area
Indiana's NewsCenter, IN - 3 hours ago
The weight loss-product maker claims it has the endorsement of OPRAH Winfrey, and charges customers each month despite the offer of a "free trial".


Weight Loss Secrets
News Channel 7, SC - 9 hours ago
Now, local experts offer some weight loss secrets that will help you melt the pounds away. When you are trying to lose weight, experts like Cindy Thomas say ...

Weight-Loss - Google News

home | site map
© 2006